30 November 2024 - The One
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X: What do you think about ‘the one’? My opinion is that it is impossible to find ‘the one’ because there are 7 billion people in the world. I think we call the people who are closest to ‘the one’ as ‘the one’. What about you?
K: To clarify, ‘the one’ is the person you will spend the rest of your life with. Right?
X: That's right.
K: In my opinion, there is not only one ‘one’ in the world. ‘One’ as a word means one person, but there are more than one “one” in the world. Maybe they are in every city.
K: That person should accept you as you are. If you accept him/her with his/her flaws (flaws is a broad term but in this sentence it is not about physical appearance. It's more like insecurity) and he/she can accept you as you are, knowing your weaknesses, I think it means that you are the ‘right person’ for each other.
K: But this is not enough to define ‘the one’. We also need to say a few words about compatibility.
K: Let's imagine that there is a girl who suits me in every way. No surprises and I already know what she thinks in every situation.
K: She must not be the right person. That relationship would be uninteresting. You cannot improve yourself. I suppose it would be like talking to yourself, wouldn't it?
X: What if it's the other way round? You know how they say opposites attract?
K: It can be, but there is a criterion for that. If you are polar opposites of different planets, it won't work. There is not enough distance to attract each other. It's like gravity. If she is in another universe, there is no connection.
K: There is a sweet spot in between.
K: Obviously, the mood (this is also a broad term and in this context it is not a daily emotions. I don't meaning like happiness or sadness. What I mean is how you looking to life.) of each individual is constantly changing. So, your mood and her mood should match at a certain period of your life.
K: I know it's confusing and let me clarify.
K: We are constantly changing. Every day we learn something new and this is often called an experience. So our view of ‘’the one‘’ is also changing. I don't want to simplify it as “love” because I am talking about much more than love at the moment.
K: Love is something different.
K: Think of it separately as body and soul.
K: When you see a beautiful/handsome person, your body starts to react. You generate some chemicals and electrical signals in your brain and you call it attraction, butterflies in your stomach or… love.
K: However, it is only your human body response and it is not enough to just say ‘the one’. At most you can say half
K: In my experience, people jump into a relationship based on appearance alone. Then they start complaining about their partner.
K: However, when you start talking with that person, your souls start to analyse each other, to see if you share the same values, interests, music taste etc.
K: (I am not trying to say that you should separate yourself from your body, I am trying to give you a different perspective to find your ‘one’)
K: I mean, I change, she changes too. There should be such a time that my interpretation of life and her should overlap at the moment we first met. we both have to be neither too close nor too far away from each other. we both need to be in the right mindset to ignite the relationship.
X: There are too many factors and the probability is very low. I think it's fair to say this person doesn't exist.
K: That's actually true.
K: When you start a relationship, you start to rasp each other. Then it evolves into something else.
K: “The one” is a variable thing.
K: “The one” for Yesterday and today are different. I am different from yesterday, we all are. We are constantly changing.
X: I want to ask you something. Do you really want to find ‘the one’ or are you just enjoying being on a path?
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X: But the probability is not zero, is it?
K: Yes, but the probability is nowhere near 100.
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X: Let's have a pack of chips, bro. I'm starving.